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Last week, someone sent me an email and recommend that I view the video.  The video takes about 19 minutes. After viewing it, I felt strongly that it carries a very strong message that I must share with you. It about a near death experience, although it talks a brain doctor narrating her personal experience. It took her 8 over years to recover and then be able to share her experience.

What captivates me is the how the real life experiences that is compatible  with my own belief that my religion taught and moulded me.  I am not here to talk about religion,  but her call to all that is compatible with my belief and value system that one must embrace to make this world a better place.  I believe all religion is about good, about good value  that promotes peace, happiness and about doing good in this world.  It is only the people who have sinister motive that use it to manipulate for selfish motives.

Dr Jill Bolte Taylor  is a brain doctor,  talks about the brain,  the left and right brain and its functions.  Each serves a particular purpose, and in the process how it controls our view of life, and in the process how we react to it and acted out our own lives. In her narration, she talks about not seeing herself as an individual being, but an energy,  one that blends, and fuses with her surrounding, her environment.  While sensing an individual self, she saw herself merging back with her surrounding, her environment.  In my own belief, this is merging ourselves with the  Universe.  In death,  my own belief system taught me that my life fuses back with the Universe, and I find her narration strongly supporting what I have learned to believe.

In this process, one must must learned to see oneself not as a separate being, but connected to the world we are in.  Man and environment is not separate, as is the concept of the inseparability of the fish and water. So one must not blame it on the others.  Whatever, one does, one must always have the welfare of his surrounding, its people in mind. One must start with his own family, the people near to him.  Our actions/inaction have a direct impact to the people around us.  In so doing, one can bring changes, laughter and happiness to his family, his work place and who knows, his community and country.

The world we are in today is not getting better.  While the world has progressed in many aspects,  human life and humanity does seem to have taken many steps backward.  And what has caused this.  It is us human being, what we have learned, what we have done to this environment.  Some labeled this as due to human greed, human stupidity and human anger.

Dr Jill ended with a very apt call to us,  to reflect what we are, where are we now, and what do we want to do.  It is all about choice, our own choice to act or not to act.   I hope you can find the time to view this fascinating video.

View this : Dr Jill Bolte Taylor Video

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Ivan

Today, as a career person, one tends to spend a lot of time in the office.  So much so, that we don’t even realise that we spend more time in the working environment than our own home.  A typical day of 8.00 am - 6.00 pm takes away 10 hours. And when we are back home, sleep itself takes up at least 7 hours. That leaves 7 hours to be shared about travelling, doing all sorts of unnecessary things to get by. On a normal working weekday, it takes me about 4 to 5 hours to travel to and back from office.  So how much of real time is really left with us for rejuvenating ourselves. Very little.

So it makes sense that one must learn to keep a stress free and happy working relationship in the office, be it with the superior, the peers or the subordinates so that on a daily basis, the majority of the time, we remain at a higher state of life and become happy.

Unfortunately, in our daily intereactions at the office, our mood and behaviour tend to be affected by the relationship with the office colleagues that we intereact with and from my experieonce, one such intereaction that can be unduly stressful, is having to deal with disciplining staff.  Or so they say problematic staff.  To some, this comes easy, to many others, this leads to uneasiness, sleeplessness and unhappiness and in the process brings this emotional setback back to his home and the family becomes the victim.

Handling such staff is an awful stressful matter, which is why many people remained to become a specialist and can only work by themselves free from managing others.

As a superior, how is one going to manage the situation.  My opinion is that even though you may be very senior, but yet when the situation requires it, one may feel stressed up and unable to handle it well.

The cause of this is predominantly due to fear and the lack of self-confidence.  Such situation requires sincerity and truthfulness which requires a frank, open discussion and dialogue.  In my experience, one has to face the issue straight-on, to be brank but yet sincere. The issue is how does one convey the message that needs to be conveyed so thatthe other party feels the same way, that is the need to improve, failing which action is certain.  That is where experience comes in, and if not some pre-preparation needs to be done before getting into it.  At the end, it is whether the staff feels that he has been given the oportunity, to hear, to be heard and also the time to improve.

Such understanding and relationship needs to be build and work upon, instead of being left to changes. The best is to be sincere in engaging a frank dailogue, be sincere and serious.  One must not just believe in it, but to walk the talk and behave as such.

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Ivan